Learning To Let That Stuff Go

I am a much more cerebral person than people give me credit for. To a certain degree I’ve cultivated a somewhat fluffy persona that doesn’t convey that I spend a lot of time thinking about heavy stuff. Underneath those years of cheerleading, hours of dance practice, and a serious dedication to travel and partying lies the heart of a surprisingly deep thinker. I spend time pondering subjects such as: politics, life, love, and random science related meanderings. I am intrigued by the idea of the singularity, the Super Conductor Collider, and the God Particle.

Basically, I Think Too Much

I used to worry about love, marriage, losing weight, and my debt. Until I started taking action. Actions that would move me towards the changes in my life that I wanted to manifest. As I put one step in front of the other I became more and more enamored with the process instead of spending time worrying.

Worrying will get you nowhere. Worry is what happens when you forget to tap into the possibility of what you can do to move yourself forward. Worry is the cousin of lost hope. Let’s be clear, worrying is a part of a person’s journey. In fact, this is what I’ve figured out after worrying about so many things for so long:

• The problem-crops up and you have to figure out a way to deal with it.

• You begin to worry about how to resolve the problem.

• You eventually come to a crossroads (literally or mentally)

• You come up with a plan OR you don’t.

• If you don’t come up with a plan you continue to worry and become a victim to the situation because you aren’t focused on resolving the problem.

• If you come up with a plan you will begin to slowly but surely WORK YOUR PLAN. Once you begin working your plan there is no more time for worrying and you eventually get to the best mental space ever.

• Because you let that sh$t go.

• When you let that sh$t go you focus on what you can do. Not on what you can’t do, what’s not happening for you, and what you wish for yourself.

Stop Being a Victim

And take control of your situation as much as you possibly can. The Shop My Closet Project’s weekly newsletter is called “Dream, Imagine, Do.” The reason why I named it that is because it’s not enough to dream about what you want. It’s not enough to envision what you want for yourself-you have to do the work. You have to do the thankless tasks to pay off your debt, you have to remove yourself from the naysayers who don’t believe whatever you want for yourself is possible. You have to remove the negative thoughts in your mind by journaling a couple of times a week to tell yourself that you will have what you imagine for yourself. Because if YOU don’t believe it’s possible to have what you dream for yourself, than how will the Universe manifest it for you? Learning to let that stuff go has been a process. I really would like to call it the following:

Letting That Sh$T Go

I had to let go of the following stories told to me by society or told to myself-by MYSELF.

• That I wouldn’t find love because I’m a black woman in America. I can’t count the number of times that I’ve read stories about how black women can’t find love. And I think that I (and many others) internalized that belief.

• That I would never experience debt freedom.I started this blog as a personal finance and lifestyle blogging journey. It is not lost on me that I still haven’t paid off my debt and I have to ask myself…why? Why have I allowed this situation to continue on?

• That I couldn’t find success outside of a traditional job ad become an entrepreneur. I worked the same job for 10 years. For 5 of those years I loved that job and then the Great Recession hit and I made the smart (and difficult) choice to stay in that job. The longer I was in that job the more I knew that I HATED working for other people in the way that I was working that job. I couldn’t imagine that I could be my own boss and become an entrepreneur.

• That I wouldn’t ever own a home. Let’s be clear, many people in my family own their homes free and clear. I just couldn’t imagine that would be a possibility for me too.

• That I shouldn’t speak in another language because other people didn’t understand what I was saying. (Happened at a job that I used to do) I spent years learning French and Spanish and well…I love to talk in any language!

These stories are lies that I believed that society and myself told myself on a daily basis. When I learned to let things go and began working on changing my life through sustained and constant action there was no room for doubt. Just room for action.

As a Result

• Dating seems to be heating up…keep sending me good vibes (and send me age appropriate guys!) I’ve even signed up for online dating…and it’s not my favorite thing to do it, but I’m trying everything that I can to meet someone in as fun and natural way as possible.

• I am making more money and as soon as I get a better handle on money flow will begin rocking debt repayment! I’m also focused on monetizing my blog and focusing on passive income. November had my best passive income earnings ever of $300 dollars. I will talk about my passive income process more in upcoming weeks. I’ve also worked for myself for the past year and I’m still eating.

• Purchased a home that is now getting cheaper and cheaper every day. I’m seriously trying to figure out how to pay this mortgage off in the next 3 years making the mortgage a 10 or 11 year mortgage.

• Working harder on becoming fluent in Spanish. I might even begin studying French again to get my fluency back

I stopped worrying about what wasn’t happening in my life and am much happier for it! I was honest about my list of worries so I ask you the following question:

What are the stories that you tell

yourself that you need to let go?

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I am an obsessive foodie, but not self-righteous with it, love travel, meeting new people, helping you look good, and am freaked out by people who don't enjoying reading...something! Grab a Perrier, read my blog, feel free to drop me a line! Hope to hear from you soon.

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