Last week I spent 4 days at a reunion in Tucson for a program that I participated in a billion years ago. For four days I was loved on by an amazing group of people that I traveled around the world with for a year. It was magical. And, as I reflect on the gift that I gave myself to attend this once in a lifetime event…I can’t help but wonder…what if?

What If

I had continued to take on debt? How would I have paid for this event? Would I have even gone given the financial pressure that my past uncontrolled debt and spending gave me? Would I have charged on a credit card (my financial heroin) and suffered a spending hang over for months (or even years) later? Probably, because that had been my pattern for a long-time. Damn the consequences. Spend money that I didn’t have without a sense of intention. I am sure that my old-self would have gotten further into debt and left that reunion with a sense of dread and buyer’s remorse.

That would have sucked.

Fortunately, for the past three years, I have worked very hard to commit to a value-based budget with a specific focus on using cash for my wants and needs. One of the most important areas in my life that I’ve focused on during the past 3 years since I quit my job and took the leap-has been spending quality time with the people that I love and cherish.

Since focusing on and becoming clear on what my values are I’ve reallocated my spending towards those specific areas of focus which include the following:

  • Location based freedom-I had to lower my overall budget so that I could explore working for myself.
  • Time with people-It has been reported time and time again that people are experiencing high levels of loneliness and depression. Prior to quitting my job, I was very depressed and lonely and I swore that I would do anything to spend time with people. I would never (if I could help it) commute again or spend time focused on activities that were out of alignment with how I wanted to live my life.
  • Good Food/Fitness/and Experiences-I’m going to combine these because they speak to my focus on health, wellness, and living a great life in general.
  • Travel-Has continued to be one of the most important parts of my life. Even though the majority of this year’s travel has been business related, I love being able to experience new places and meet new people.
  • Service to others-In addition to really zoning in on who I would like to help with my business, I missed volunteering. I’m now in the process of preparing to volunteer at my high school as a reading mentor and I can’t wait to help encourage teens in my city to embrace reading and love it as much as I do.
  • Making a ridiculous amount of money-This is a newer value that I will shout out from the rooftops. Broke sucks. Money is a tool. A lot of money is a GREAT tool. Just saying.

Once I became crystal clear on what my personal values were, I also became very clear on what I didn’t want to spend my time and energy on (even though I used to).

  • Endless Shopping-I still┬ádo love getting new things from time to time. But, the stuff that I currently have is really nice. Until I’ve loved it and used it for as long as possible, it’s a waste of time and money to go shopping. Also, I’ve just gotten really bored with it and enjoy the efficiency and convenience of online shopping.
  • Labels-Even though I used to LOVE shopping…I was never really into actual labeled items. This continues to be the case.
  • Keeping up with The Joneses-I’ve become really suspicious of the Joneses. I want to see their bank accounts. No longer will I blindly believe that everyone has money…because they look like they do. I used to look like I had money and I didn’t. I’m staying in my own lane and keeping focused on what’s best for me.

Being clear about what I valued made it easy to attend my reunion because it was in complete alignment with what I considered to be important.


Was, what I spent in cash.

  • $300+ for my plane ticket (booked late-epic fail)
  • $300+ 3 nights and 4 days at nice resort (including food)
  • $300 Reunion pass

It was worth every penny and I would pay it again. The time that I spent with my friends: dancing, singing, reminiscing, and catching up was priceless.

We rebooted relationships that have been years in the making. Being 100% clear about my values made this a no-brainer decision.


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