When I began this blog 5 years ago (formally known as “The Shop My Closet Project) I was profoundly, painfully, and totally stuck. I was dealing with a horrible financial mess, I was depressed, and I kept thinking that there had to be a different way to live my life. Because my way wasn’t working for me.


It’s is one of the most frustrating and frightening places to be emotionally because it feels like no one else understands what you’re dealing with. In fact, I’ve learned since then, that getting stuck is part of life but that many of us don’t have enough tools to manage it and because of that we basically feel like we’re going crazy.

You’re not

But, if you don’t deal with it, you will drive yourself crazy. So, to avoid that, we’re going to break down the different areas of your life that might not be working for you and some of the ways you can get unstuck without stressing yourself.


Perhaps you are in debt, have a financial situation that is spiraling out of control, aren’t earning enough, or just feel like you’re not on track.

Here are some action steps:

  • Be kind to yourself
  • Take a step back and look at the entire picture.
  • Focus on taking one action daily/weekly/monthly that will move you towards your financial goals.
    • This could look like the following: cutting your spending so that you free up cash to pay off bills.
    • Cutting your spending so that you can save more if you have no bills.
    • Side-Hustle and earn more
    • Position yourself at your job to earn a raise (or get overtime)
    • Hate your debt? Pay off your bills from smallest to largest
    • Not sure where to begin? Pay off your bills from highest interest rate to lowest
    • Pay off your bills starting with the bill that pisses you off the most
  • Take small sustainable steps (focus on sustaining your actions)

Your Life

Sometimes your life is just not going the way that you would like it to. Trust me, I know! I was broke, had gained a ton of weight, depressed and lonely-yikes. Life was rough and a lot of things were completely out of my control. So, I focused on what I could control. No, it wasn’t easy…but, as time when it on I built up my personal resilience and my life slowly, but surely, improved.

Here are some steps that you can take 

  • Be kind to yourself (sense a pattern?)
  • Decide. What in the heck do I mean by “decide?” I mean that there is a point when you have to decide that you are no longer interested in accepting the results you’ve been getting. Once you decide that you want your life to be different, you’ll be able to begin working on change.
  • Journal-I am a huge believer in journaling. In this case, you’re giving yourself permission to get all of the crap that’s in your head…out of your head. I spent a lot of time journaling, meditating and clearing my mind of all of the negative thoughts that were floating in my mind.
  • Create a vision-of how you would like your life to look like in the future. Sometimes we get the results that we’re getting because we don’t have a clear vision of how we would like our lives to be. I work on a Vision Board every year so that I am focused on living my life vision.
  • Take Small Actions Daily-That will move you towards your end goal.
    • Examples of small daily actions:
      • Do a 5-minute workout each morning to lose weight. As time goes on you will naturally work out longer and crave more of a challenge.
      • Watch a 15-minute video that help you learn another language. After awhile you will naturally push yourself to learn more (fingers crossed)
      • Join activities/organizations that help you meet people to hang out with or date. These activities/organizations will create a safe and comfortable place for you to talk to people in a low-key non-judgemental environment.
      • Daily mindest exercises-These are huge because you’ve probably spent a lot of time focusing on all the things that aren’t going well. Take this time to tell yourself you’re amazing, that you attract good things, and that life is getting better. One day, one small action at a time.

Things Can Change

But, it will be hard in the beginning because change is an uncomfortable, frustrating, irritating experience…until it isn’t. There will be a point when you will hit your stride and nothing will stand in your way.

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I am an obsessive foodie, but not self-righteous with it, love travel, meeting new people, helping you look good, and am freaked out by people who don't enjoying reading...something! Grab a Perrier, read my blog, feel free to drop me a line! Hope to hear from you soon.