I am feeling pretty good about life and things in general. After being depressed and frustrated by how my life was going for the past 3+ years this is a pretty heady feeling. The more I focused on all of the things that weren’t going well in my life the harder it was to see the good things that had and were still happening.
So, last year as I worked on myself esteem I also tried really hard to work on changing how I was thinking about my life and its circumstances. Why I am choosing positivity is basically because:
Negativity and Cynicism Just Stopped Working for Me
I felt like it was just as easy to focus on being happy and positive. And that spending time being happy and positive was a better use of my time. The more time I spent focusing on:
- The U.S. Debt
- Conspiracy Theories
- Gun Violence
- The Ozone Layer
- Why Kanye is such a Douche?
The more I just felt like why do I bother trying to change my life? Everything just sucks. Then, as I began making it a practice to be positive everyday I noticed something. I had a lot of great things happening in my imperfect life.
- Good health
- A Great family
- Wonderful friends
- I live in beautiful place (www.coloradoluvhub.info)
- I eat good food
- I get to read as many books as I want
- The Mountains
- I get to travel
I realized that the more I focused on the good things the happier I became and more good things began to happen. Just like depression has little depression babies, happiness has little happiness babies.
I am not Pollyanna and I still have my moments of cynicism. But, being cynical about people and possibilities of things changing in a positive way is not helpful. Things CAN change. But, in order for things to change you have to be open to the possibility that there are good things that are in your present and future.
I Am Responsible For My Life
I know that from time to time I get a little metaphysical on my blog. But, I do believe that we have to be aware of the energy, the self-talk, and the actions that we take each day.
Are you:
- Practicing gratitude? Or, are you upset about what you don’t have?
- Are you helping those who cannot help themselves? Or, do you hoard your wealth? (intellectual/time/money/etc)
- Connecting with nature? Or, are you always in the city?
- Stopping to smell the roses?
- Smiling at people (not like a weirdo) just in a natural, let’s commune with others kind of way?
- Spending time with friends and family in ways that are free-going for a walk, riding bikes, or having a game night?
- Helping a family member/friend/ or neighbor who can’t help themselves?
The point I’m trying to make is that as you do these things it will help shift your perspective. Yes, I have debt, yes I’m a little freaked out by all of the crazy a@@ things that are happening out there in the world-but, I’ve had a very blessed life.
Debt can be dealt with. Loneliness can be dealt with-meet people. But, truly believing that the world is an awful place is a sad mental space to exist in. I don’t want that to be my truth.
So I shifted my perspective and I feel better all ready.
This was a bit of a ramble, but I hope you get where I’m going with this.
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BEing positive, always smile and see glass half full is always better solution, positive brings positivity!!!
I love being positive! I keep meeting happier people and I feel happy because I feel like life is good.
Sometimes I worry and get negative too, but it’s so much better when I choose the positive route. There really is so much to be thankful for and I don’t want to waste it!
I’ve just wasted too much time with negative energy and I am not interested in being negative anymore. I feel a lot happier now that I’ve shifted my focus to gratitude. It’s a lot happier mental place to be.
Why Kanye is such a Douche? Why is he such a douche? 🙂 Actually, having a positive attitude actually kind of makes me feel sorry for the Kanyes of the world. No matter how much success they have an how confident they “appear” to be, you cannot be happy and do the things like he does. Because positivity and compassion are very much linked together. And even if he works with charities (I have no idea), all that is negated by how you act towards other people on a daily basis. So I feel sorry for him that at his core he might be a miserable human being. Ya know? If I don’t have positivity, or compassion, then it’s too easy to hate someone like him.
I was being cheeky about Kanye. I actually think that he just doesn’t think in the moment. I also think he might has some depression issues because his mother died. Positive is now my middle name LOL!!
I’ve wasted a lot of time on negative energy and realized that it had to change. I try to be as positive as I can now but I have my moments still. The biggest help was to stop watching the news! I don’t watch it period. Actually this year so far, I haven’t watched too much TV at all. I do practice gratitude, focusing on the abundance in my life and taking a moment each morning to see the beautiful day around me.
You have been a bundle of positivity! Keep it up!
Michelle, t.v. is pretty much a downer! There is always so much negative stuff that they show. I wish they would balance it out with positive things. I did notice that Australian t.v. is a lot “lighter” than U.S. t.v. They have our shows, but they show the really violent/intense ones fairly late at night. I haven’t watched a lot of t.v. here and I feel GREAT. That’s something to thing about.
That’s the spirit Michelle! Never get stressed ever again as it just brings us bad luck and bad mood. At the start of the day, just pray and smile a lot like giving your spouse or friends a genuine smile, these will help you get some positivity. And always think that there are good things coming for you.
I am trying to meditate/pray through out the day and just keep things in perspective. My life is not perfect, but I can work on the things that aren’t going well. I just am over feeling depressed or unhappy about things that are out of my control.
Making the switch from always being negative to appreciating the abundance in my life has done wonders for my outlook. When I stop to think about the good things instead of dwelling on the bad I seem to have more energy to create even more positive things. That’s much better than being sad and depressed all the time.
I just feel so much better now that I’m trying to be in a consistently positive frame of mind. In fact, negative people really grate my nerves now because I’m so resistant to pessimism. Unfortunately, I will have to talk to a few people about their negative talk or we won’t be able to hang out. I just can’t deal with it anymore.
This is something I’ve been focusing on a lot lately too. I really do believe you can change the way you think and live and feel just by focusing on the positive aspects of life. I used to take one negative thing and make it into a huge deal that overshadowed everything good in life and I’m so thankful I don’t live that way anymore. It’s wonderful to read that you’re feeling the same way! Thank you for this dose of inspiration 🙂
My life is far from perfect, but all of the negative thoughts made things 10 times worse than they needed to be. Also, my negative talk kept me from creating solutions to negative situations. I allowed my negative talk to take my power away. No more!
Bravo Michelle ! I am going to follow your lead.
Let’s be positive together!